Thursday, May 29, 2008

Im tired

Hmmm...its been a long day for me today...huh...Konrad the new baby born is already home yesterday and he`s cute. I`ve been busy today preparing for his stroller, closet and some of his clothes. Even though my employer is home, i`m helping her changing diaper and some work because she got an operation (cesarean). This afternoon also were playing Bernhard the older brother because he got jealous to Konrad he wants also more attention. But this is my work i must be more patience coz i need money to support my family, my needs and etc.

Its time to go bed now, im tired and i have to wake up early tomorrow for work.

Monday, May 26, 2008

It is hard

It is hard
To forget
To apologize
To save money
To be unselfish
To avoid mistakes
To keep out of a rut
To begin all over again
To make the best of all things
To keep your temper at all times
To think first and act afterwards
To maintain a high standard
To keep on keeping on
To shoulder blame
To be charitable
To admit error
To take advice
To forgive
But it pays!

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Tomorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly, and pray the Lord your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss, and call you back for just one more.

If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would tape each word and action, and play them back throughout my days
If I knew it would be the last time, I would spare an extra minute or two,
To stop and say "I love you," instead of assuming you know I do.

So, just in case tomorrow never comes, and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you, and I hope we never will forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So, if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day
That you didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss,
And you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
That you love them very much, and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry," "Please forgive me," "thank you" or "it's okay".
And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

My busy day

Today is may busy day. Being an au pair is not an easy task and there`s a lot work to do. For me being a second mom to a 2 years old baby boy is a lot more responsible to take good care of him. Especially today my host family is on the hospital because she is bleeding due to her pregnancy this morning. And thats why i`m alone with the kid today. I`m the one who taking care of the baby, sending and picking up in the kindergarten, preparing foods for his dinner, giving him a bath, giving his medicine and vitamins and put to his bed.

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The Eight Sins of a Relationship

“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” - Emily Kimbrough

Just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do — and I’m sure many of you have stepped into these pitfalls yourselves. I know I have. I’ve learned from my mistakes, and have learned to recognize when I’m making a fatal error, and how to correct it.

If you can avoid these seven things, and focus instead on doing the four things above, you should have a strong relationship. I’m not going to guarantee anything, but I’d give you good odds. :)

  1. Resentment. This is a poison that starts as something small (”He didn’t get a new roll of toilet paper” or “She doesn’t wash her dishes after she eats”) and builds up into something big. Resentment is dangerous because it often flies under our radar, so that we don’t even notice we have the resentment, and our partner doesn’t realize that there’s anything wrong. If you ever notice yourself having resentment, you need to address this immediately, before it gets worse. Cut it off while it’s small. There are two good ways to deal with resentment: 1) breathe, and just let it go — accept your partner for who she/he is, faults and all; none of us is perfect; or 2) talk to your partner about it if you cannot accept it, and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you (not just for you); try to talk to them in a non-confrontational way, but in a way that expresses how you feel without being accusatory.
  2. Jealousy. It’s hard to control jealousy if you feel it, I know. It seems to happen by itself, out of our control, unbidden and unwanted. However, jealousy, like resentment, is relationship poison. A little jealousy is fine, but when it gets to a certain level it turns into a need to control your partner, and turns into unnecessary fights, and makes both parties unhappy. If you have problems with jealousy (like I once did), instead of trying to control them it’s important that you examine and deal with the root issue, which is usually insecurity. That insecurity might be tied to your childhood (abandonment by a parent, for example), in a past relationship where you got hurt, or in an incident or incidents in the past of your current relationship.
  3. Unrealistic expectations. Often we have an idea of what our partner should be like. We might expect them to clean up after themselves, to be considerate, to always think of us first, to surprise us, to support us, to always have a smile, to work hard and not be lazy. Not necessarily these expectations, but almost always we have expectations of our partner. Having some expectations is fine — we should expect our partner to be faithful, for example. But sometimes, without realizing it ourselves, we have expectations that are too high to meet. Our partner isn’t perfect — no one is. We can’t expect them to be cheerful and loving every minute of the day — everyone has their moods. We can’t expect them to always think of us, as they will obviously think of themselves or others sometimes too. We can’t expect them to be exactly as we are, as everyone is different. High expectations lead to disappointment and frustration, especially if we do not communicate these expectations. How can we expect our partner to meet these expectations if they don’t know about them? The remedy is to lower your expectations — allow your partner to be himself/herself, and accept and love them for that. What basic expectations we do have, we must communicate clearly.
  4. Not making time. This is a problem with couples who have kids, but also with other couples who get caught up in work or hobbies or friends and family or other passions. Couples who don’t spend time alone together will drift apart. And while spending time together when you’re with the kids or other friends and family is a good thing, it’s important that you have time alone together. Can’t find time with all the things you have going on — work and kids and all the other stuff? Make time. Seriously — make the time. It can be done. I do it — I just make sure that this time with my wife is a priority, and I’ll drop just about anything else to make the time. Get a babysitter, drop a couple commitments, put off work for a day, and go on a date. It doesn’t have to be an expensive date — some time in nature, or exercising together, or watching a DVD and having a home-cooked dinner, are all good options. And when you’re together, make an effort to connect, not just be together.
  5. Lack of communication. This sin affects all the others on this list — it’s been said many times before, but it’s true: good communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow. If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities. If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them. If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out. Communication doesn’t just mean talking or arguing — good communication is honest without being attacking or blaming. Communicate your feelings — being hurt, frustrated, sorry, scared, sad, happy — rather than criticizing. Communicate a desire to work out a solution that works for you both, a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change. And communicate more than just problems — communicate the good things too (see below for more).
  6. Not showing gratitude. Sometimes there are no real problems in a relationship, such as resentment or jealousy or unrealistic expectations — but there is also no expression of the good things about your partner either. This lack of gratitude and appreciation is just as bad as the problems, because without it your partner will feel like he or she is being taken for granted. Every person wants to be appreciated for all they do. And while you might have some problems with what your partner does (see above), you should also realize that your partner does good things too. Does she wash your dishes or cook you something you like? Does he clean up after you or support you in your job? Take the time to say thank you, and give a hug and kiss. This little expression can go a long way.
  7. Lack of affection. Similarly, everything else can be going right, including the expression of gratitude, but if there is no affection among partners then there is serious trouble. In effect, the relationship is drifting towards a platonic status. That might be better than many relationships that have serious problems, but it’s not a good thing. Affection is important –everyone needs some of it, especially from someone we love. Take the time, every single day, to give affection to your partner. Greet her when she comes home from work with a tight hug. Wake him up with a passionate kiss (who cares about morning breath!). Sneak up behind her and kiss her on the neck. Make out in the movie theater like teen-agers. Caress his back and neck while watching TV. Smile at her often.
  8. Bonus sin: Stubbornness. Every relationship will have problems and arguments — but it’s important that you learn to work out these problems after cooling down a bit. Unfortunately, many of us are too stubborn to even talk about things. Perhaps we always want to be right. Perhaps we never want to admit that we made a mistake. Perhaps we don’t like to say we’re sorry. Perhaps we don’t like to compromise. I’ve done all of these things — but I’ve learned over the years that this is just childish. When I find myself being stubborn these days, I try to get over this childishness and suck it up and put away my ego and say I’m sorry. Talk about the problem and work it out. Don’t be afraid to be the first one to apologize. Then move past it to better things.

Monday, May 19, 2008

To my Sweetheart

The day i met you,
I went home carrying a smile
You maybe just an ordinary person to a lot of people
But for me you`re someone
I`ll cherish til the end of my life.
I may not be the first person in you`re mind
Nor the person closest to you`re heart
But i will surely be the person who will take all the risk
Just to keep you forever...

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Thank You My Friend Nita


This is my friend Nita Thomas, i know her in Bolanon.com. She is happily married to Lance Thomas they have one daughter named Lilianna Rose Jenelle and one son named Luther Lyndel Jameson and they are living in Unites States.

Sis Nitz is sweet and very nice person. She loves blogging, digital scrap booking and many more. Her work is very nice and thats encourage me and inspired to do some blogging also :)

Sis Nitz THANK YOU SO MUCH for your effort of helping me and sharing your knowledge about blogging. Keep up your good work sis i love it. And again thank you sis.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

To a Friend

I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.

I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.

I love you for the part of me that you bring out.

I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart and passing over all the foolish and frivolous and weak things that you can't help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful radiant belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find.

I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool and weakling in me, and for laying firm hold on the possibilities of the good in me.

I love you for closing your ears to the discords in me, and for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening.

I love you because you are helping me to make of the timber of my life not a tavern, but a temple, and out of the words of my every day not a reproach, but a song.

I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me happy.

You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign.

You have done it first by being yourself.

After all, perhaps that is what being a friend means.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

mahal parin kita


At kung mayron na akong ibang mahal,

iisipin mong mahal parin kita;

kahit na ako`y mahal na ng iba ay aasa kang di ko kayang gawin ang limutin ka`t hindi na mahalin.

Kahit na ako`y di mo ngayon pansin

balang araw ay iibigin mo narin

kapag ako`y mahal na ng iba

baka ako`y hindi mo na hahamakin pa.

At kung mayroon na akong

ibang mahal aasahan mong mahal parin kita,

kung kailan akoy may bago ng mahal saka mo lang

sadyang maintindihan na ang pag-ibig ay hindi laruan lang.

At aasa kang mahal parin kita

kahit na akoy mahal na ng iba

pagkat noon pa may nababatid mo na lihim sa puso

koy iniibig na kita.


Friday, May 9, 2008

love notes

There are times in our lives, when we are swift over by raging emotions. Times when we are overwhelmed by the sadness; overcome by misery. Times when we feel that we are loved only, for the worth others could get from us and not for who you really are. It is not through to feel this way. Sometimes we all need to be alone, to feel blue, to feel lonely, tp listen to a song and cry, then we ask ourselves why thus theres song have to end. Why do we have to cry when love is taken away from us, why does it have to hurt. When we let go of someone we loved. In a relationship we treasure, the heart think to do, to say goodbye and setting someone free, for in every last embrace a part of us dies, every teardrop that falls washes away, our hopes then we are left with nothing but pain and bitter memories because we have lost love but never knew how and we`ll probably never knew why we try to get away, but every move we make somehow has its way of reminding us of the past all over again. Every turn of our head and every blink of an eye reminds us of love lost in eternity and its makes us wonder how one person can make us feel so empty, so alone, and so disolate. Every song no matter how beautiful it is, will have to end on its last note, like everyday has its night, all that has started will have to end in its own time. It is an inability that we cannot restrain, something though we cannot control, just the fact that we have to accept and lived up with. Let us remember that our lives, doesn`t have to end, where our heartaches begin, somewhere someone will come along, and sing us his song of love, someday someone will fill our lives with joy and happiness, somehow we will find love again and it will wipe away all our tears and bring us the promise of a new life; a new hope and a beautiful beginning.